Thursday, October 22, 2009
Chef's Choice..by Neisha Kelly
You and your boy like the same girl, how do you decide who dates her? He likes her for external reasons you idolize her for internal reasons. You and her have grown closer than him and her. You get to see a side of her that he never even realized existed. She is supportive of you and your endeavors. You are appreciative of that. A woman should never come between true friends. Although you are aware of this fact it plagues you everyday, the reality is to him she is just a big butt and a smile. For you it is much deeper than that. You admire this woman and can see this friendship growing into so much more. You and her share common goals and interests. In the past you have always backed down but not this time. In my opinion, you should let your boy and her know how you feel. If you all have a deep connection then more will prosper from the friendship. Whatever you do let this decision of who dates her be hers and hers alone no pressure. It could be that she does not see things the same way you do and may just want to maintain a friendship with you. Often times people say friends make the best lovers. They say good things come to those who wait. Patience is a virtue that many of us are not equipped with. We want, what we want, when we want it, and do not have time to wait. It has been my experience that timing is everything. Sometimes it is just not your turn. Often you reflect back to times when you liked someone and they did not like you back and then years later they realize what a catch you were. Only to realize that their time had passed. In the back of your mind you think why didn’t they approach me sooner? Or, you have a catch in front of you and you dropped the bait and someone else caught your fish. Reality can be a real pain in the ass. One that does not heal easy the more you think about what could have been the more it feels as though salt is being poured into the wound.