Monday, November 30, 2009

EyeCandy for the Fellas...

At it Again..We have Ms. Hajirah aka Miss Rain aka twitter.com/UrFavModel
Photos taken by DaRealSafado Studios



Happy Holidays from Pretty Business Promotions & Casting


Thanksgiving is a day where you enjoy food with People You Love. I am especially Thank full to have Such wonderful,loving, Pretty Gurls to have My Back thru thick and Thin. This Year Myself and Pretty B Ki cooked dinner..We made 2 whole Chickens, Fresh Collard Greens, Cabbage, Rice, Baked Macaroni N Cheese, Fresh Candy Yams, and Cajun Shrimp Scampi for the appetizer... We skipped on the deserts and enjoyed some Cognac and Wine..:-}

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Love in the Club..Neisha Kelly



Gentleman's Corner: Ladies why do you dress sexy in the club only to come there and stand on the wall? You barely notice the sexy fellas in the room because your nose is up in the air. Fellas you ever been in the club and notice a sexy lady in the club and you ask her to dance and she declines your request. Later you observe her again and she is still standing there grinding on the wall or one of her girls. Even worse some of you come dressed scantily clad and are shocked when a guy comes onto you. You have all your goodies showing leaving nothing to the imagination. You get all up in arms that he made a pass at you. Ladies I am not condoning a man making a sexual advance to you but when you have everything out he is not thinking wow she has a big beautiful....brain. Leave him guessing. Men like a challenge not an easy mark. Both of the situations occur every weekend in the club every weekend. Now I am not guaranteeing you are going to find love in the club but at least go out to have a good time. Ladies men appreciate seeing you all dolled up and want to approach you. Remember men are stimulated visually and in awe of how beautiful you look on any given club night. In their minds they do not see the logic in getting dressed up just to sit alone all night. They feel you might as well have stayed home. Anti-social behavior is not cute in the club. Then some of you have the nerve to be upset that no one approached you. Shutting men down when they approach is a surefire way to get you on the she is dancing alone list for the night. Not to mention the mean scowls you have on your face in the club no one wants to talk to a woman that looks pissed off. He does not want to further piss you off. Keep a smile on your face and an open mind when enter the club. Since one would like to believe you are there to enjoy yourself. Do not distract yourself about sweating out your weave that is what ponytail holders are for. Another issue worth address is the women who come dressed to the club like they are about to perform at another club....the strip club. Now do not get upset I am not telling anyone what to wear in a club. This is after all a free country. You can wear whatever you like. Just keep in mind you will attract a certain type of attention that may be unwanted. He will approach you but his mind will be consume with trying to get you out of the club and into the bed. Some men see the club as a hunting grounds and search for their prey there. Wearing next to nothing is like a deer caught in a hunter's sight. Some women have the audacity to be offended and appalled when a man approaches them with sex on his lips as they speak to them when dressed this way. Keep it grown and sexy force him to look into your eyes when speaking to you do not let your body distract him from seeing the real you. When I go to the club I am looking to meet new people. Although I am a shy girl I am not hesitant to meet a new firnedly face. Now gentleman while I sympathize with you in both of these situations some of you are guilty as charged with coming to a club only to stand around and watching fun happen all around you. In my eyes you could have stayed your ass home. You go to a club to dance and socialize. Let your hair down a little. Wind up your waist and drop it low and get your party on. Good times are ahead of you at the club.

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Another One from the Mixtape Superstar


1. Under - Pleasure P
2. Last Chance - Ginuwine
3. Neighbors Know My Name - Trey Songz
4. Pregnant - R. Kelly ft. Tyrese
5. Trust - Keyshia Cole ft. Monica
6. Get it on - Jamie Foxx
7. Pretty Wings - Maxwell
8. Get to the Point - Marques Houston ft. Tank
9. It kills me - Melanie Fiona
10. On Top- Trey Songz
11. The Realest One - Usher
12. I want to know what love is - Mariah Carey
13. Back - J. Holiday
14. Number One (rmx) - R. Kelly ft. T-Pain, Keyshia Cole
15. Home is where I belong - Bobby Valentino
16. Tip of my tongue - Jagged Edge
17. Slow dance (rmx) - Keri Hilson ft. Marques Houston
18. Hood love - Trey Songz ft. Mary J. Blige

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Thursday, November 19, 2009

In Living Color....Neisha Kelly LIVE...

Performing live at Café International, 241 East Front Street, Trenton, NJ

Friday, November 20, 2009

8 p.m.-11 p.m.

$8 Cover Charge



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Glory Days ...Neisha Kelly

Ever lost a love because you were stuck in the past? Never dwell
on something old, when you have something new. In life
we tend to allow the ghosts of love past haunt our present day
and even work its way into our future. We get so caught up in
what could have been we miss out on how things should be. I had
an eye-opening encounter this morning and would like you
to turn learn the lesson without the kick in the ass. There was
this sexy guy who worked in my office building who
approached me a while back. He was very nice looking had an
easy-going manner about him very down to earth. I gave him
my number and we would periodically speak on the phone. I would
make sporadic phone calls to him. We hung out two
times and that was it. At the time I was seeing this other guy I
had been dating off and on. He would pick me up from work
and come to my house all the time. Unbeknownst to me the new guy
saw all this since he lived near me and worked in the
same building. I would tell him when he asked me if I was seeing
anyone no and that I was just dating. I never gave it a
second thought. Needless to say I let the new guy go because I
was so fixated on the current guy. He would not commit to
me he kept saying if only I would change. It took too many years
and tears for me to get that shit through my head. It was
not until recently I got the case of the fuck-its and let him go.
Yet I cannot help but dwell on what could have been as I
talked to the new guy it was apparent he wanted nothing to do
with me. My ego got knocked unconscious. When it came to
we realized what a mistake we made. Never make the same mistake
twice. Never allow emotion mind drive your heart. If
you allow your emotions to fuel your decisions you will be on
shaking ground. The rational and emotional must fuse
together to create wise mind. You need them both to think clearly
and logically. Matters of the heart often defy logic.
Sometimes you have to think like a guy to get one. Men tend to
look at things from a black and white view it is either all or
nothing therefore diminishing any grey area. If a guy was in my
situation he probably would have cut the old girl off and
move on. When a situation isn’t working for you change your
environment. Never allow your past to dictate your future.
People come into your life for a reason, season, or a lifetime.
Acknowledge their place in your life and move on. We need to
possess the power of letting go. Do not try to make someone stay
that is meant to go. As T.D. Jakes says, “When people can
walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never to be
tied to anyone that left.” Stop trying to raise the dead. Know
when it is over. Ever noticed when everyone around you it telling
you to let something go and you are holding on you are
often barely hanging on. You lose your grip instead of letting it
go you chase after the rope that will inevitably be used to
hang yourself. If people are not joined to you know that you
cannot make them stay. That was my problem and now that I
have cut myself down from the rope my eyes are open. You cannot
view the world with rose-colored glasses. You will trip
and fall over your own feet. Stop begging people to stay. LET
THEM GO!

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Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Fashionable Foot Forward w/ Caitlin

I’m back again! Ok ladies, for those of us in school, it’s the end of the semester, Christmas is coming up, some of us are working overtime to get that little extra spending dough, we are all busy! So here are some easy tips to always stay fashionable and well put together even when your time is running very low!

Organize your closet into color combinations or pre-arranged outfits:


This eliminates the guess work! If your closet is already arranged so that you can just grab and go, you won’t have to piece outfits together from all over, saving you time! Just decide on the weather, grab one, and throw it on!

>>Staying out somewhere?


Always keep a to-go bag of travel size necessity items handy and ready to go. Stock travel size toiletry items (toothbrush, toothpaste, deodorant, contact solution, soap), an inventory of easy to create hairstyles and the products needed to create them (you don’t want to have to be lugging around a diffuser and straightening iron everywhere! Styles like buns are easy to create with just a travel size hairspray, elastics, and some bobby pins), and versatile shoes (dress flats are good, because they are comfortable and practical but can still style up an outfit!)

Pick out your clothes the night before: Although at the end of the day, sometimes we just wanna have our glass of wine and collapse into the warm soft bed, but I for one, would rather STAY in that bed an extra 20 minute in the morning then get in a few minutes earlier! Picking out your outfit the night before ensures that you won’t run late because you can’t decide what to wear, or can’t find that one shirt you had wanted. Lay your clothes out so all the pieces are there together and you just have to put them on in the morning and go!

>> On a budget? Instead of buying lots of clothes, keep an inventory of basics (sweaters, blouses, long and short sleeve dress tee-shirts) and buy different scarves to compliment them. The weather is getting colder, so many of us will be wearing coats anyway, hiding your outfit a majority of the day. A fun scarf is a great way to accent any outfit and male sure you stand out in the crowd. Just make sure that it still matches your coat! Nothing is tackier than a coat that has nothing to with anything else you have on!

Don’t over think it.


Stay with easy but stylish outfits:
-Pick basic solids (black, brown, white, beige…) and pair it with one bright or different color item such as a cardigan, scarf, shoes, hat, or bag. One small accessory can add just the right touch to complete and outfit.

-Pick ONE print. It’s easy to mess up an outfit when trying to combine too many prints and colors. If you have a print piece such as a blouse or scarf you want to wear, let that piece be the focus piece to avoid over-stimulation. You don’t want to look like there is a carnival happening all over your body. Match that print with the basic colors involved. Jeans and a black blazer, black pants and a muted cardigan, brown skirt and beige blouse, are all good combination examples that will help highlight a nice print piece.

Hope you all find these tips helpful in this busy season, and stay stylin!


Do you have any style questions that you want answered? Email me at Caitlin.Teahlyse@verizon.net and I will be sure to address your questions in the next edition of Fashionable Foot Forward!

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Monday, November 16, 2009

DJ PLEXX presents... SWAT SWEASON



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Rule of Three..Neisha Kelly


Would you ever lie to your current partner about how many people you have had sex with in the past? Why do poeple always say keep it real? When really they cannot handle reality? So you and your guy are having date night you are watching a movie he stops the movie and ask you how many people you have been with. He intrudes your thoughts of having sex with him that night with this nonsense. You tell him that you are not going to answer that question. He gets offended and you let him know that no matter the number he is going to be disappointed. That is when he says that more than likely whatever number you give him he will multiply by three. Because that is the rule of three. But he neglects to tell you that with guys you should subtract three from the number he gives you. In other words women downplay the number and guys overcompensate their number. Truth be told ladies we are basically caught in a Catch 22 on this one. No matter what we say they already think it is all bullshit. How fair is that? A guy himself told me he would never ask that question and will never answer that question. Now if I had said that a man would have looked at me like I had five heads with horns growing out of them. As long as your health records check out and the bill is clean what is the problem. Do you really want to know how many times your mate has gotten it in with someone other than you? What are you going to do walk up to them and shake their hand? I watched this show on time about hookers and there was this guy on there who wanted to know how many men the hooker had been with that night. Now that was strange. The truth is stranger than fiction. I just feel that question is a loaded one and I am not a fan of Russian Roulette. It just pisses me off how women are held to a higher standard than men. Separate but not equal. Every since Eve gave Adam the apple it has been hell to pay.

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Holiday Fashion Show


Models,

You might have heard through the grapevine that The Centre at Glen Burnie is a sponsor of Baltimore Fashion Week. The Centre at Glen Burnie mall, is the mall that is located next to the Best Buy of Ritchie Highway - the strip mall. The mall's address is:


The Centre at Glen Burnie
6711 Ritchie Highway
Glen Burnie, MD 21061


With this partnership, we will be performing a fashion event on Saturday, November 21, 2009

and other fashion events until Baltimore Fashion Week 2010 - which is scheduled for August 9, 2010 through August 13, 2010.

We will need about 30 reliable models. We are saying reliable because you will need to arrive to the mall on SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 21, 2009 by 9:00 a.m. for prep time for the show that will begin at 11:00 a.m. sharp. The fashion event will be held in the Bonefish Courtyard - near Lane Bryant. The event will be over no later than 1:00 p.m.

Participating in this showcase will be the following retail stores Lane Bryant, DOTS, Rainbow, Smart Attire, Dicks, and Target. The jury is still out on Dicks and Target's participation.

The showcasing categories are active-wear, ready-to-wear, and After-5/Formal.

This year Baltimore Fashion Week has incorporated the talents of Tashia Dorsey. Tashia will be working with the retail stores to capture the look that is a true representation of Baltimore Fashion Week and its models.

Also showcasing are the following designers:

Julie Bent - LOT 201
LaTonya Dickens - LT Dickens
Todd Breeden - Formal Den
Teresa Poku - Regal Clothes
Khalilah - Get Noticed Hosiery
Ricky Jones - Rimarjo (not confirmed) - but guys if you are interested please let us know.
We will need you decisions back as soon as possible. Our model selection must be completed by Sunday, November 15, 2009, before we go pull the garments for the show.

If you are interested and available to attend, please send us your current model stats along with a photo. We will get back to everyone no later than Monday, November 16, 2009, if not sooner with our decision. All information must be sent to modelinfo@baltimoresfashionweek.com.

Thank you again for your support.
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Hair & Make-Up:

We are requesting that hair be pulled back in either a ponytail or an up hair style.
Make-up is a easy day look - natural looking make-up

Shoes & Accessories

Since the jury is still out on Payless and Famous Footwear, we would like to suggest that you bring with you just the basic colors:
Blue
Black
Red
Brown
Cream
Silver
Gold
The style of the shoe is totally up to you.
Since The Centre at Glen Burnie Mall is providing us with space for these events and massive advertisement, this event with the mall will be a volunteering, non-paid event.

We look forward to talking with you soon.

Baltimore Fashion Week

Casting Call..STOMP THE YARD 2


CASTING CALL: Extras Needed for Stomp The Yard 2 --> http://tinyurl.com/yg8b8n9

Why do Good Guys Go Bad..??


Why do good guys go bad? Ladies have been pondering this one for years. Hopefully today's post will shed some light on this mystery. Nice guys have grown tired of being overlooked. They have felt like they are walking mats we step all over on both sides. Good brothers are not a hot commodity although they should be. For too long we have mistaken their kindness for a weakness. We find their kindness to be emasculating, players are the alpha male. I cannot get that charm school episode out of my head with Tariq Nasheed where the women overlooked the Renaissance man who encompassed the qualities in a man that so many women say they want. We do not know what we want because we are dangerously in love with assholes. Ironically, enough when good guys go bad we always say he used to be so sweet. But that is when we play him for a sucker. Karma is definitely a bitch. The dynamics of the relationship have been broken down once again by society it dates back to slavery. The good slave was rewarded with vicious, torturous, gifts. He was beaten down in front of his family. This big, strong man whittled away in front the eyes of his wife and children. If he could not protect them who could. This changed the view of the man in his woman's eyes. Nice guys are simply put not respected for the kings they truly are. Think about it you have an example of a gentleman in Ne-Yo yet here we are questioning his sexuality. Learn to appreciate such intuitiveness. Ladies we need to have some accountability in the destruction of the nice guy. We are culpable for his demise. He is suffocating slowly and revival attempts are futile. Death will become him if we do not caress his aching heart. His blood will be on our hands. We make all these justifications, excuses rather for not accepting the good brother. Somehow he is not on our level yet we will meet a bad brother and try to mold him into a good brother. What part of the game is that? I am confused by even writing that. You cannot change a man. There it is I said it. Stop trying so damn hard. Accept what you deserve a good man. We get too consume by what he drives, how much he makes, and how good he looks. Look at the bigger picture concern yourself with whether or not he respects you enough to love and care for you and only you and not a bevy of other ladies. He loves you enough to have one leading lady on the pedestal. Aren't you tired of sharing the spotlight? Shit is so messed up you know everything your getting with the bad brother and still love him unconditionally. You take that same knowledge with a good brother and those very things will render him unlovable. Stop dating these men that don't want you. Or even better who only want a part of you. Stop being flattered when a guy tells you he wants to sleep with you. That is not flattering. Cut that shit out. Use your wise mind ladies stop going off your damn emotions. Listen I am talking to you as much as I am talking to me. I have a few good men in my life and I refuse to date them. I like you have been dating men that are emotionally unavailable to me trying to change them. I need like you to change my thought process. Collectively, we must rally for the elite group of good brother left. They should not be walking around here aimlessly. But before you can join this elite group you must be elite yourself. If you are a good woman that deserves a good man at accordingly. Ladies good men are a dying breed and it is our job to save them. Do not let them resurrect among the unsavory characters that bad men are. They are getting tired and fed up. Like a woman, once they are fed up there is nothing you can do about it. Falling out of love and it's too late to talk about it. Cherish the good guy in your life before you lose him. Once he is gone you will have to live with the fact you did him wrong forever.

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Why are Good Guys Overlooked..??



Via Facebook Kourtney Spear asked: Why are good guys overlooked?


Well Kourtney it is the year of the gentleman but the players are getting all the love. That just doesn't seem fair. Ladies wake up there are nice guys surrounding you. Why do we waste time on these men that are emotionally unavailable to us? Here's the scenario, you go out with this guy and he is a perfect gentleman he follows all the rules of chilvary. At the end of the night he is excited that he got a kiss and is content with just that. He did not try to make a move all night and now you are questioning his sexuality. What type of shit is that? Since he did not make a move on you in your warped sense of self he must be gay. You should be flattered he is into traditional courting of a lady. You command respect yet you push it away when it is given without a fight. Love is not about fighting despite what you heard. Love is as natural as a warm summer's breeze. See we have this thing where we proclaim we want a challenge. We are turned on by a man we have to fight to be with us. It is so obvious he doesn't want you but you still fight for him anyway. I am stressing this issue because I do the same thing. I have the potential to be happy but I say I am confused. I do not want a nice guy if you look at my actions and neither do you. Guys plain and simple we don't want you. We don't want you because it is too simple, too easy, and we are not used to that. You don't make us prove we are worthy of your love. You give it too us as freely as God gives us life. We don't think we deserve happiness. We deserve to be shut out and not supported by our man. Hell we will even do the unthinkable settle. So what he does want to be married we will be content just having him lay next to us for years to come. We want a man in any form and fashion even if he is only ours for a moment. Someone said to me why won't you let me love you? I didn't have an answer for him. I could not give a plausible reason why I should not honor his request. So I say it now for all of us I am sorry. Sorry nice guys for treating you like trash instead like the royalty you are. Sorry for putting peasants on the pedestal and carrying them past you. Sorry for questioning your loyalty and respect. But most of all I am sorry for not loving myself enough to see that I do deserve to be loved by a man other than God. Nice guys wouldn't finish last if ladies just put themselves first.

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Promo Work for Models





One of our clients is looking for promotional models in your area. If you'd
like to be booked on this, please contact me by responding to this email.

Job Description: Demonstrator will be sampling Hershey's Pot of Gold candy
mix.

Event can run on: 12/5 or 12/6 and 12/12 or 12/13
Time: 10am to 4pm
Rate: $65 per day

*preference will be given to those who can work both weekends!*

Demonstrator to Bring: Demo Kit, Demo Table, Small trash can or trash bag

We're looking for people at the list of locations below. If you can commit
to one of these openings, just let me know by indicating which location/job
is best for you :


MD - 12/06/2009 - Kmart, Hagerstown, MD 21740
MD - 12/13/2009 - Kmart, Hagerstown, MD 21740

MD - 12/06/2009 - Kmart, Prince Frederick, MD 20678
MD - 12/13/2009 - Kmart, Prince Frederick, MD 20678

MD - 12/06/2009 - Kmart, Stevensville, MD 21666
MD - 12/13/2009 - Kmart, Stevensville, MD 21666


Thanks, I look forward to hearing from you!

Ashley Phillips
Talent Booking Agent
Samplers, Inc.
401-274-1494 Phone
http://www.samplersinc.com

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Fashionable Foot Forward..W/ Ms. Caitlin

Style advice for the busy woman (and man, every now and then!)

Just a quick check-in! Here are some things that are no longer acceptable in the up-coming year, 2010!
Trends on the way out:



-Leggings (especially as pants)
->Substitute: sheer leggings (Sheer black leggings can add a touch of class and elegance to almost any dress or skirt)




-Knock offs! (You’re not fooling anyone!)->Substitute: Get a stylish or custom bag from a boutique that is way more affordable than a real Louis or Gucci, but just as cute, and more EXCLUSIVE, because not every other woman is carrying a knock off of the bag! (*Note: Unless its vintage, if you got it anywhere other than the Louis or Gucci store or website, and paid any less than $500 for it, its probably fake!)





-Not Accessorizing (that’s boring!) and OVER accessorizing (that’s distracting! Jingle Bells much??)
->Substitute: Accessories that compliment your outfit, but not overpower it. Figure out what you want your outfit to communicate. Casual but classy? Elegant and regal? Accessories can really change the whole message! But be careful not to use too many at once! Again, use your discretion. Two belts? Not ok. Rings on every finger? Not ok. A necklace with a shirt that has detailed embellishment at the collar? Stay away.





-Sweating your hair out!
->Substitute: Plan accordingly! If you know you in the mood to dance, plan an appropriate hairstyle that is gonna work with you, not against you! You should look just about as presentable leaving the club as you did at the door!


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Psychic Tendencies ..Neisha Kelly


Ladies what are 3 non-verbal signs you give a man to show him you are interested? Or signs you do not want to be bothered? I am a shy girl so non-verbal signs are an amazing way to communicate with people. I surveyed a few ladies both married and single. When a woman is interested in you she will make eye contact. She will keep an unwavering gaze on you. It will seems as if there are only two people on earth, you and her. Nothing else will even matter. If she is interested she will smile at you and not just because you are telling a funny joke. Talking to you makes her happy. She smiles often to let you know that. If you are also interested smile back. She leans toward you while talking. You have the green light. Take it before you see the signs she is not interested. Honestly, I was avoiding this fork in the road but I guess I will have to yank it out anyway. Guys after reading this take it at face value she just not that into you if: does not look you in the eye and turns her back to you when you are talking to her, runs and hide to avoid contact with you, and most importantly if you ask her out and she turns you down it is a wrap. She is not playing hard to get she just wants you to get a clue she is simply not interested. Men we hate it when you get all delusional and think we are playing a cat and mouse game. Please do not go into stalker mode. I had a situation like this I was not interested in someone and they were determined to convince me otherwise. I displayed all these signs and to this day he still thinks I am just confused about what I really want. Stop laughing ladies and gentleman his antics are annoying. Now ladies while you are laughing please keep in mind these rules both interested and uninterested can apply to men as well. Listen to a person non-verbal clues they will give you insight into what they really want or do not want from you. Don't make them say it out loud. Your ego will be stinging for days for the bitch verbal slap they give you.

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Promotional Work for Models

One of our clients is looking for promotional models in your area. If you'd
like to be booked on this, please contact me by responding to this email.

Contract rate is $115 per day

Job Description: Event Dates:
Saturday Dec 19th
Sunday Dec 20th

**Talent must be able to work both dates**

Hours: 11am-5pm each day

Product to Promote: Serta Mattresses

What Product Ambassador will be doing: We are looking for STELLER PRODUCT
AMBASSADORS for this program! We are looking for talent who are willing to
WIN! Talent will be driving awareness of Serta mattress sales in Sam's,
and intercepting consumers to deliver key selling points.

*Will help set-up mattress on a box springs, so consumers can comfort test
the mattress (store personal will help with set-up).

Casting Requirements: Experienced in promotions, energetic, engaging,
ability to memorize a script. Must be able to help set-up mattresses. Must
be able to relate to clients target audience of women between the ages of
25-54.

Event Attire: Branded Serta apron, Black Pants, White Shirt, black
closed-toed shoes

*Live Phone Training required for all PA's and it will be paid

****Audit photos are required for this event**** You must submit self audit
photos.

* Incentive: Demonstrators in the top 50 stores with the highest sales lift
COULD win a $50 Visa Gift Card. They must complete a live phone training
session, have a debit card swipe and Market link call for each day, and
submit an audit photo to their agency (who will send it to Sunflower)
showing correct set-up and consumer interaction. If they complete all 4
steps and if their store is one of the 50 top selling stores, their gift
card will be mailed to them after the program executes.



We're looking for people at the list of locations below. If you can commit
to one of these openings, just let me know by indicating which location/job
is best for you :

CT - 12/19/2009 - Sams Club, Berlin, CT 06037
CT - 12/20/2009 - Sams Club, Berlin, CT 06037
MD - 12/19/2009 - Sams Club, Hagerstown, MD 21740
MD - 12/19/2009 - Sams Club, Rosedale, MD 21237
MD - 12/19/2009 - Sams Club, Waldorf, MD 20601
MD - 12/20/2009 - Sams Club, Hagerstown, MD 21740
MD - 12/20/2009 - Sams Club, Rosedale, MD 21237
MD - 12/20/2009 - Sams Club, Waldorf, MD 20601
NJ - 12/19/2009 - Sams Club, Secaucus, NJ 07094
NJ - 12/19/2009 - Sams Club, Williamstown, NJ 08094
NJ - 12/20/2009 - Sams Club, Secaucus, NJ 07094
NJ - 12/20/2009 - Sams Club, Williamstown, NJ 08094
VA - 12/19/2009 - Sams Club, Colonial Heights, VA 23834
VA - 12/19/2009 - Sams Club, Henrico, VA 23294
VA - 12/19/2009 - Sams Club, Lynchburg, VA 24502
VA - 12/19/2009 - Sams Club, Richmond, VA 23231
VA - 12/19/2009 - Sams Club, Roanoke, VA 24012
VA - 12/19/2009 - Sams Club, Virginia Beach, VA 23452
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Finding Forgiveness ..Neisha Kelly


What is the wildest act your cheating mate performed to prove his/her undying love for you? Can a relationship survive infidelity? After a partner cheats, can the love survive the broken bond between the two of you? You are with your man and you have had found out he cheated on you. You are hurt as well overwhelmed by the pain heartbreak brings. Questions burst out of you like a damn that has reached it's breaking point. Naively you question the fact wondering if you were good enough for him instead of understanding the fact he just proved himself unworthy by committing this heinous act. How do you move past this? With the feelings that seem to envelope your heart and seal it shut can your love for him remain the same? As your heart began to harden and trust goes out the window can forgiveness be found before your heart is immersed in concrete. Anger about the fact often breeds insecurity. I had a former love cheat on me and I thought I could forgive him. I tried to look at the act as water flowing under a newly built bridge. Yet thoughts of her and him raced through my mind everyday. It got to a point where I was so riddled with hate and contempt for the both of them I went to her job to confront her. I had no idea what I was going to say because in all actuality I did not want to say anything. All I knew was I was hurting and I want someone else to feel my pain preferably someone who inflicted it upon me. I got there and her and I were face to face and she could not even look at me. I want to say so much but the words could not form at my speechless lips. There she was the woman who for so long had no face merely she was simply a name which ignited anger in me. What did she have that I did not? Why wasn't I enough for him? As I write this I want to let you know that it took me years to move past what happened. For a long time I would see her and just wanted her to look me in the eyes and explain how she could sleep with the man she knew was mine. I wanted to know why she thought her needs were more important than mine? Why did he care for he more than me? I will be honest it took a lot of years and tears for me to move past what happened between them. Seeing them together after our breakup stung deep like a knife wound to my heart. Forgiveness was a hard lesson to learn. I had to accept that there was nothing I could have done to prevent him from cheating. Also, I had to accept that I am worthy of unconditional, pure love. I forgave him because my heart was hemorrhaging from all the hurt his selfishness caused. I tried to hold onto to the good our relationship had produced. The truth was our time had passed and we were holding onto a memory that had since faded. You can forgive but you can never forget. Even when I write this piece the pain I felt the day I found out he was cheating still seems so raw as if it happened yesterday. That is why although I have forgiven him I have decided that I cannot allow him back into my heart. No amount of tears or kisses can make his indiscretion dissipate from my memory. As much as I want what we once had I have to be realistic and keep things in perspective for me. For me this act what far too great and cost me way too much. I refuse to let my guard down again for him. Cheating makes trust a hard thing to give to someone. You cannot blame every man for the foolishness of one. To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you.
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Black Friday..Black Hennessey..Club Phoenix


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Wife vs WIFEY...Neisha Kelly




In light of many women getting married, divorced, and emotionally scarred in the process, women would you rather be Wife or Wifey? He cares for you and is there for you always. You talk about everything he shares his hopes and dreams with you. You are always eager to hear what he has to say and he appreciates that. The two of you seem like a good fit but you all have been with each other for years. You have never been in a relationship with him. He is always in one but just not with you. Sound familiar if it is then you are probably wifey. You get all the benefits without the ring. Let me break down the difference between the wife vs. the wifey. Let's start with wifey since she has been there the longest. You have a lot of respect for her she knows about your other conquests but does not care. Or at least it appears she does not care. She almost encompasses everything you want in a woman yet you do not want to marry her. Somewhere she falls short on your list of credentials. But she worth keeping at least until you meet your wife. Your wife is everything you want in a woman and more. She knows your family and friends and you have their blessing. She does not have to compete with other women because she is the only one. Some women would rather be wifey because so many men cheat and the ring is not that important to them. Yet some women feel it is what the ring symbolizes. Unity is what they want. They are tired of wandering around aimlessly without their soulmate. It is so difficult when you are with someone for years only to see them go off and be with someone else. Knowing that you sat there and were supportive of them and their aspirations motivated them when all hope seemed lost. It is like building a house and having someone else move in. It cuts so deep the bleeding never seems to stop. I would want to be the wife. Almost doesn't count.
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Thursday, November 5, 2009

Flirting With Misery... Neisha Kelly


Would you really want to know if your girl is cheating on you? You say you want to know but do you really? Can you handle it? If honesty is the best policy how would you handle hearing that your lady is cheating on you? You are busy with your career and you have been neglecting your girl lately. She has expressed that she understands you are busy but she just wants a little of your time and attention. You keep meaning to but you have been putting it off for quiet some time. After a while she stops asking for your time and begins busying herself with something new. You are relieved because she is no longer so insistent about sharing your time. Subtle clues began to surface that something is not right. Her phone never rings, she takes calls in the other room, and she keeps her phone close to her even taking it into the bathroom while taking her shower. Your curiosity is sparked because she always used to leave her phone lying around paying attention to you not so much it. You suspect she is cheating but you only have circumstantial evidence the case would get thrown out on its ass in court. In your mind you are battling between emotional and rational mind. Your rational mind is winning the battle yet your emotions are fueling the war. You would like to sit down and talk to her to get a better understanding of what is going on. So you confront her and surprisingly she admits that she has been seeing someone else. Guilt consumes her and tears of remorse began cascading down her face. She drops to her knees and begs for your forgiveness. You can visibly see this is tearing her apart. Do you forgive her? Ladies as well all know men are less likely to forgive women of infidelity than a woman is to forgive a man. In our minds we want to understand so we are fixated in emotional mind. In his mind, rationale tells him there is no excuse for cheating under any circumstance. You should have remained faithful regardless. In the grand scheme of things cheating is not worth the consequences you must endure for committing such a heinous act. Recently, I watched an episode of Maury where this woman confessed to cheating on her man and he was so devastated had it not been for the cameras I think it would have gotten physical. She allowed an intruder to invade her mind, body, and soul and it would forever be etched in his memory. Love is strong but the intensity of infidelity can often sever it's ties. The cost is too great. True love is priceless. Why would you sell out to the highest bidder and auction off the greatest gift of all?


Title:Spoken Word Performance by Sweetnectar
When:Fri Nov 6 11pm – Sat Nov 7, 2009 2am (GMT-05:00)
Where:Cafe International, 241 E. Front Street, Trenton, NJ


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Jimmy Choo at H & M


It is the latest 'cheap chic' designer collaboration for H&M, which has recently sold collections by Rei Kawakubo of Comme des Garçons, and British's Matthew Williamson.

The Jimmy Choo for H&M range features more than 40 pieces including clothing as well as footwear and handbags. Prices range from £14.99 for jewellery, through to £149.99 for a leather dress and £179.99 for thigh high boot. the cheapest shoe is a pair of zebra-print studded ballet pumps for £49.99.


The full collection will be previewed on the H&M website on October 29 and will go on sale in selected stores from November 14.


Tamara Mellon, the founder and president of Jimmy Choo, who launched the deluxe celebrity brand in 1996, said: “We are privileged to be among the fashion greats who have been affiliated with H&M so far, and to be designing a collection appealing to fashion-savvy, street-smart women, and to be including some great pieces for men, too."

Best Dress Woman 2009

So.. According to Harper's Bazaar, Stella McCartney is named best-dressed woman of 2009

Attending the Costume Institute Gala in New York in May earlier this year, Ms McCartney took the opportunity to show off a lace all-in-one from her autumn/winter 09 collection.



Wearing lashings of lace again, this time at the Time 100 Gala, a celebration of 'TIME' magazine's 100 most influential people, where McCartney was honoured under the group 'Builder and Titans'.

Picture: EPA




Favouring black for the red carpet, McCartney favours floor-skimming flared jeans for dressing-down, which she teamed with one of her blazers to her show her spring/summer 2010 collection during Paris Fashion Week in October.


http://www.telegraph.co.uk/fashion/fashionnews/6507578/Harpers-Bazaar-names-Stella-McCartney-as-the-best-dressed-woman-of-2009.html

Couture Fashion Week


When:
11/07/2009 at 01:00 pm
Where:
Dallas Texas,
United States


48 runway fashion models 2-day event to be held at the historic Union Station presenting collections by top fashion designers from around the world.

REQUIREMENTS: See model requirements below.

WHAT TO SEND: E-mail link to your webpage or 2 low-res JPG photos. Include your true current stats (name, height, measurements, dress and shoe sizes, etc.). Be sure to include your contact information (e-mail and telephone).
CASTING: You will be notified of in-person casting date(s) and time(s) if pre-selected from your submission. In-person castings will be held in New York City and Dallas.

Contacy info: beautyfashionmodel@yahoo.com

Casting For Print Job


Where:
Central LA California, 3000
United States


Casting for Fashion/Print Female Models for National Advertising

Please attach photo, must look the age of 18 to 30, non-exclusive contract.

If selected, $50 per hour min of 80 hours

Contact info
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Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Frebbie Fridays At Club Phoenix




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The Problem Solver...

The Amazing Cucumber



This information was in The New York Times several weeks ago as part of their "Spotlight on the Home" series that highlighted creative and fanciful ways to solve common problems.


1. Cucumbers contain most of the vitamins you need every day, just one cucumber contains Vitamin B1, Vitamin B2, Vitamin B3, Vitamin B5, Vitamin B6, Folic Acid, Vitamin C, Calcium, Iron, Magnesium, Phosphorus, Potassium and Zinc.

Feeling tired in the afternoon, put down the caffeinated soda and pick up a cucumber. Cucumbers are a good source of B Vitamins and Carbohydrates that can provide that quick pick-me-up that can last for hours.

3. Tired of your bathroom mirror fogging up after a shower? Try rubbing a cucumber slice along the mirror, it will eliminate the fog and provide a soothing, spa-like fragrance.

4. Are grubs and slugs ruining your planting beds? Place a few slices in a small pie tin and your garden will be free of pests all season long. The chemicals in the cucumber react with the aluminum to give off a scent undetectable to humans but drive garden pests crazy and make them flee the area.

5. Looking for a fast and easy way to remove cellulite before going out or to the pool? Try rubbing a slice or two of cucumbers along your problem area for a few minutes, the phytochemicals in the cucumber cause the collagen in your skin to tighten, firming up the outer layer and reducing the visibility of cellulite. Works great on wrinkles too!!!

6. Want to avoid a hangover or terrible headache? Eat a few cucumber slices before going to bed and wake up refreshed and headache free. Cucumbers contain enough sugar, B vitamins and electrolytes to replenish essential nutrients the body lost, keeping everything in equilibrium, avoiding both a hangover and headache!!

7. Looking to fight off that afternoon or evening snacking binge? Cucumbers have been used for centuries and often used by European trappers, traders and explores for quick meals to thwart off starvation.

8. Have an important meeting or job interview and you realize that you don't have enough time to polish your shoes? Rub a freshly cut cucumber over the shoe, its chemicals will provide a quick and durable shine that not only looks great but also repels water.

9. Out of WD 40 and need to fix a squeaky hinge? Take a cucumber slice and rub it along the problematic hinge, and voila, the squeak is gone!

10. Stressed out and don't have time for massage, facial or visit to the spa? Cut up an entire cucumber and place it in a boiling pot of water, the chemicals and nutrients from the cucumber will react with the boiling water and be released in the steam, creating a soothing, relaxing aroma that has been shown to reduce stress in new mothers and college students during final exams.

11. Just finish a business lunch and realize you don't have gum or mints? Take a slice of cucumber and press it to the roof of your mouth with your tongue for 30 seconds to eliminate bad breath, the phytochemcials will kill the bacteria in your mouth responsible for causing bad breath.

12. Looking for a 'green' way to clean your faucets, sinks or stainless steel? Take a slice of cucumber and rub it on the surface you want to clean, not only will it remove years of tarnish and bring back the shine, but is won't leave streaks and won't harm your fingers or fingernails while you clean.

13. Using a pen and made a mistake? Take the outside of the cucumber and slowly use it to erase the pen writing, also works great on crayons and markers that the kids have used to decorate the walls!!

Pass this along to everybody you know who is looking for better and safer ways to solve life's everyday problems..

Ciroc To Add new Flavors...


Diageo Turns to Dutch, Diddy Partnerships for Vodka Expansion
By Andrew Cleary
Oct. 30 (Bloomberg) -- Diageo Plc, the world’s largest liquor maker, is turning to partnerships with rapper Sean “Diddy” Combs and Dutch distiller Ketel One to release new vodka varieties and push further into emerging markets.
Diageo’s Ciroc vodka, an equal-share venture with Combs, is set to release coconut and red-berry varieties in the U.S. , Marc Strachan, the brand’s marketing director, said at an Oct. 28 presentation in Schiedam , Netherlands . Ketel One, the local vodka maker in which Diageo bought a 50 percent stake for $900 million last year, plans to enter 15 new markets including Brazil and Australia by the end of June, said Bob Nolet, vice president of the Nolet Distillery, where it’s made.
Vodka accounted for 11 percent of Diageo’s 12.3 billion- pounds ($20.4 billion) revenue last year. Organic sales -- which exclude acquisitions and currency movements -- of Diageo’s Johnnie Walker and Tanqueray gin fell in the year through June, while sales of Smirnoff, which leads the $36 billion premium- vodka market, rose 2 percent.
“People have tried to call the downturn of vodka since its success in the 90s, but it continues to outperform in most markets and especially in the U.S.,” Ian Shackleton, an analyst at Nomura International Plc in London with a “buy” rating on the stock, said in a telephone interview. “It’s the most flexible and mixable of spirits, and Diageo have coverage across the whole space.”
‘A True Partner’
Ciroc and Ketel One are pricier alternatives to Diageo’s Smirnoff. Ciroc volume sales climbed to 400,000 cases in the year ended June 30 from 60,000 cases in first half of 2007, the year that Diageo teamed up with Sean Combs. Diddy’s fellow rappers Snoop Dogg, Dr. Dre and Jay-Z all have endorsement deals with liquor brands in the U.S. , while Combs is “a true partner” and receives half the brand’s profits, Strachan said.
The recent success of the Ciroc venture still pales in comparison to Smirnoff, which was the first premium-spirit to surpass 25 million cases of sales in 2008. Diageo also plans to release a new Ketel One flavor to add to its citrus variety in 2010, Nolet said.
The premium-vodka market is made up of about 100 million cases of bottles that sell for more than $8. That doesn’t include the estimated 400 million cases of lower-priced local brands sold each year, predominantly in Russia and eastern Europe, said Philip Gladman, Smirnoff’s global brand director.
The U.S. currently accounts for more than 90 percent of Ketel One’s vodka sales, which will reach 2 million 9-liter cases this year, said Nolet, an 11th-generation descendant of the distillery’s founding family.
“The partnership with Diageo is about global scale and our inspiration to make Ketel One a true global brand,” said Nolet. “We’re in this forever.”
Doubling Production
The distillery, which has a football-field-sized storage facility and a tunnel under a neighboring canal to ferry materials to the bottling line, also has the capacity to double production to 4 million cases a year when demand from new markets warrants it, Nolet said.
“Ketel One have done pretty well in the U.S. on their own but were hardly heard of outside -- that’s what Diageo brings to the party,” said Nomura’s Shackleton. “There’s no reason why they can’t reach 4 million cases globally fairly quickly.”
Ciroc and Ketel One retail for $54 and $38 per 1.75 liter bottle, compared with about $20 for Smirnoff. The two labels fill a hole in Diageo’s portfolio and will enable the company to react to changing trends if consumers trade up or down in their purchases, said Gladman.
Flavors
New products include apple, lime, and blueberry-flavored Smirnoff in the U.K. Diageo also wants to replicate the success of the wine and whisky industries in educating consumers about the origins, tastes and production techniques of its vodkas, said Jason Bowden, Ketel One’s in-house spirits expert. The company worked with bartenders and retailers for 12 months to develop an in-store marketing campaign along those lines, he said.
Diageo is also targeting vodka growth in Asian markets including Japan , Korea , and China , selling to consumers of traditional spirits such as China ’s baijiu, a rice liquor. Early sales of Shanghai White, a vodka-baijiu mix released in Hong Kong in recent months, are “promising,” Gladman said.

A Moment with Rihana...



Rihanna: Back On Top!

What a year it’s been for the superstar. (“I went to sleep as Rihanna and woke up as Britney Spears,” she says.) Here, we salute her for, yes, her style and songs—but also for her message to young women, which she talks about in this Glamour exclusive. “Domestic violence is a big secret,” she says. “I want to give as much insight as I can to young women…to help speak for them.”
More about Women of the Year 2009
Every once in a while, a pop star comes along who is so visually magnetic, her music so utterly everywhere, that the world can’t take its eyes off her. There’s no question who that superstar is right now: Her name is Robyn Rihanna Fenty. At 21, Rihanna’s résumé could turn even a music industry veteran a major shade of green: Since Jay-Z signed her to Def Jam in 2005, she has scored four number-one hits and has sold more than 12 million albums, a number soon to grow with her just-released album (untitled as of press time). Add to that Rihanna’s self-invented style—a mash-up of Paris couture and street punk, and possibly the best-known haircut on the planet—and you have a full-on fan frenzy. With all that attention comes a sky-high platform for doing good, and Rihanna’s used it wisely: In 2006 she quietly started the Believe Foundation, a fund that provides educational and medical supplies to needy children, and she has personally helped two leukemia sufferers find the bone marrow matches they needed to live. Of course, it’s impossible to talk about Rihanna without also discussing the February night the singer was brutally assaulted by her then-boyfriend, pop star Chris Brown. Rihanna has remained mostly silent about that awful experience. But now, with Brown out of her life, she’s opening up as a way to speak on behalf of victims of domestic violence. Listen in on this honest comeback interview.
Glamour: Let’s first talk about life before you made it: You are one of the few pop stars in recent years to come from the islands.
Rihanna: I would have never dreamed that my career would be this successful. I grew up in an average home in Barbados , and we didn’t live in the best neighborhood. But I was never aware that we were poor; my mom never made us feel that way. She loved me unconditionally. She made us feel anything was possible and instilled in me such confidence.
Glamour: Did you sing a lot as a kid?
Rihanna: Always—in the shower, to pillows and stuffed animals, my cousins. But I knew I wanted my music to be heard worldwide. That was my dream. I was able to make demos whenever I had vacation time, but my mom always said, “You are not stopping school until you get signed.” And even when I got signed, she still made me go to school.
Glamour: You auditioned for Jay-Z at Def Jam. What was that like?
Rihanna: I was nervous as hell. The night before, I couldn’t sleep. I was trying on a million different outfits and makeup. I remember seeing Jay-Z and starting to shake. I thought he would be in a suit, sitting behind a desk with a cigar. But he was totally chill, wearing sneakers and a T-shirt. Then I went into audition mode. I knew it was all or nothing. Right away, the Def Jam people said, “You can’t leave the building.” They closed the door, and the lawyers stayed until 1:00 or 2:00 A.M. to do the deal.
Glamour: That literally is the definition of overnight success!
Rihanna: In a matter of weeks, the first single [“Pon de Replay”] went to radio. Then we shot a video, and the song just took off. I was in the Top 10 with huge artists who I looked up to. Jay-Z kept telling me, “This never happens, so don’t get used to it.” I saw how special that moment was.
Glamour: What’s the most valuable piece of advice Jay-Z’s ever given you?
Rihanna: In the beginning of my career, he said, “You must be a good person, because good things are happening for you, but you have to stay humble.” One thing that intrigued me about him was that he was such a huge artist and really down-to-earth. I felt like if he was saying this, it must work.
Glamour: Let’s talk about this past year—you’ve obviously been through some difficult things. How did the people around you help you cope?
Rihanna: My friends and family have been extremely supportive, and everyone has been there for me. But at some point you are there alone. It’s a lonely place to be—no one can understand. That’s when you get close to God.
Glamour: Are you referring to the [Chris Brown] incident?
Rihanna: I am talking about starting with the night [before] the Grammys and then on. That was not the only thing that occurred this year. The picture leaking…it was one thing after another.
Glamour: You’re talking about the photo [reportedly of Rihanna’s injured face taken by police after Brown assaulted her] that was allegedly leaked by cops. You handled that so well; you kept silent in the press.
Rihanna: It was humiliating; that is not a photo you would show to anybody. I felt completely taken advantage of. I felt like people were making it into a fun topic on the Internet, and it’s my life. I was disappointed, especially when I found out the photo was [supposedly leaked by] two women.
Glamour: How has this event changed you as a person, as a woman?
Rihanna: I’m stronger, wiser and more aware. You don’t realize how much your decisions affect people you don’t even know, like fans.
Glamour: Do you think you’ve gotten your strength from your mom?
Rihanna: Definitely. My mom gave us the tools to survive…. My parents separated when I was eight or nine. I helped her raise my [youngest] brother, because my mom was working all the time. He’s my favorite.
Glamour: Do you feel that this experience has laid the groundwork for coping with anything so public again?
Rihanna: It has taught me so much. I felt like I went to sleep as Rihanna and woke up as Britney Spears. That was the level of media chaos that happened the next day. It was like, What, there are helicopters circling my house? There are 100 people in my cul-de-sac? What do you mean, I can’t go back home?
Glamour: If you could offer a message to the millions of young women who look up to you, what would you tell someone who found herself in a similar situation?
Rihanna: Domestic violence is a big secret. No kid goes around and lets people know their parents fight. Teenage girls can’t tell their parents that their boyfriend beat them up. You don’t dare let your neighbor know that you fight. It’s one of the things we [women] will hide, because it’s embarrassing. My story was broadcast all over the world for people to see, and they have followed every step of my recovery. The positive thing that has come out of my situation is that people can learn from that. I want to give as much insight as I can to young women, because I feel like I represent a voice that really isn’t heard. Now I can help speak for those women.
Glamour: I think that’s a great message. What about your new album? What’s it like?
Rihanna: I was involved in a lot of the writing. I put everything I’ve wanted to say for the past eight months into my music. The songs are really personal. It’s rock ‘n’ roll, but it’s really hip-hop: If Lil’ Wayne and Kings of Leon like my album, then I’ll feel good. I would not change anything about it. Even if people don’t love it, I made exactly the piece of art that I wanted to make. It’s super fearless—which is exactly how I feel right now. I am in a really good place.
Glamour: Justin Timberlake said it sounds a little more grown-up—do you agree with that comment?
Rihanna: I agree. I have grown up a lot since my last album. It [represents] exactly where I am at right now.
Glamour: Jay-Z once said that your challenge as an artist was going to be to make people relate to you as a human being. What do you think he meant by that?
Rihanna: Before, there was an innocence to me. It was a perfect image. So the minute I did something imperfect, it was a big deal. I think that’s what he was referring to: People forget that after we get to our hotel rooms at night, we take a shower, we watch TV, eat room service and do normal things. Behind it all, we are still human beings.
Glamour: Now let’s talk about your success in the world of fashion: You have become a fashion icon practically overnight. What does it mean to you as a performer, as a creative person, as a way to celebrate who you are?
Rihanna: Fashion for me is another way I get to express myself creatively. It is one of the fun things I get to do: to play dress-up, and create outfits and looks that aren’t typical. I am an artist, so I like creating things. Shoes are my favorite thing.
Glamour: OK, so how many pairs do you own?
Rihanna: Too damn many! [Laughs.]
Glamour: Your look has evolved from the beginning of your career.
Rihanna: In the first two years of my career, there were a lot of restraints on what I could do. I couldn’t wear certain colors of lipstick, like bright pink, dark pink or red; [my lips] had to be natural. Eventually, I stopped communicating with certain people at the label, and did exactly what I wanted to do. And that was to cut my hair, dye it black, change my clothes, change my sound. Really to just express myself.
Glamour: Let’s talk about that famous hair of yours. Your cut now is even called “The Rihanna” in salons!
Rihanna: Yeah, we cut it into a bob for the [Good Girl Gone Bad album] cover shoot, but then I went even shorter for the NRJ Music Awards [in January 2008]. My hairdresser just said, “I don’t feel like doing your hair anymore—I want to cut it.” I was like, Finally!
Glamour: On to your charity work: What in your own life inspired you to start the Believe Foundation?
Rihanna: I have always loved kids. They are little adults with so much personality, and it is fun to work with that. Whether that means donating school supplies or medication, or [using my celebrity] to get them a bone marrow transplant, I want to help.
Glamour: You actually helped a young girl and a mother of two, both of whom were suffering from leukemia, find bone marrow matches for transplants. How did that happen?
Rihanna: My manager sent me a video this little girl did for her best friend. It shows them playing, and then Isabelle says to the camera, “This is my friend Jasmina, and here’s how you can help her: Swab your mouth for DNA, and put it into an envelope.” They were both adopted and have the best bond—they are inseparable. The video made you fall in love with both of them. I was like, I have to help her. So I did a bunch of events to raise awareness. Just when we thought we were not going to find a donor, we found one. The other woman, Lisa, is a mother of two who was diagnosed with leukemia and was going to die if she didn’t get a bone marrow transplant. I knew she could not leave her two kids; that’s all that was going through my head. So we said a lot of prayers, sent out press releases and did events in order to get the word out. Her transplant was successful. She was in a lot of pain, but she was so strong and determined.
Glamour: Wow, that’s amazing. So here you are, only 21, and you have already accomplished so much. Where do you see yourself in five years?
Rihanna: So much has happened in the past five years, I can’t speak for the next five. What I want is to continue to grow. Because I am never satisfied; I always want more. I always want to get better. I always want to climb another step.
Glamour: Is it too early for you to think, I want to be in love, I want to have a family? Is that too far down the road?
Rihanna: I hope I find love in the next 10 years—that will be pretty annoying if I am 31 and still have never been in love! But yeah, I’d like to be in a great place in both my personal life and my career. I still want to be doing what I love. Whatever that is in 10 years, I don’t know.
Glamour: Well, congratulations on being a Woman of the Year!
Rihanna: It is an honor. The women who are being honored are all such great inspirations to me. I look up to them.

Monday, November 2, 2009

The Extinction Of Romance Neisha Kelly


Is the concept of romance dead and buried? With the institution of friends with benefits is romance on the brink of extinction? What happened to going out on a date anymore? Nowadays we go over each other's house and maybe dinner gets cooked. Sex is obviously on the menu. We are turning into a society full of speed and excess. People barely know one another's last name and clothes are coming off. We have to stop moving so fast. Allow romance to take place. Try attraction, friendship, and intimacy. In that exact order. Go on a date and for once don't have sex. Let yourself be courted properly know that you are worth more than a roll in the hay. Make them prove themself worthy of your mind, body, and soul. Remember when people rounded the bases. First base was kissing, second was petting, we have moving so fast which slide past these two and go straight to third. Calm down your hormones go sit on the bench and regroup. Chivalry is alive and well. Since we are always bringing back old trends blow the dust off old fashion courting. It has always been in season it just seems we have always been rebellious and think we have outgrown it. We have gotten to big for our britches. Ladies leave him lingering for more with that unforgettable first kiss. Have more conversations. Learn about his goals and ambitions and don't be afraid to share some of yours. What happened to dinner and a movie? Ending the night with a kiss instead of a nightcap. Know you are worth waiting for. It is as if we have a backwards way of thinking sex is the priority and we anticipate everything else will come. Sex is the easy part it seems getting to know each is the part that takes work. Work is what we are afraid of. Getting our hands dirty. Think with your brain not your body. Ignore you libido for once and try a little logic. You always want to maintain a level of respect for yourself and others. Live for love not regrets.

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